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The Cost of Asking Favours

Updated: Nov 17, 2019

AS you read this post, reflect on your network and those around you who you value. Take note of the people you rely on, who give their time and effort and what they get in return.

The thought of looking after our helpers, go-to people, and get it done people struck me when one of my contacts went out of his way to ask how he could help me and what I needed. I hadn't expected that. I'm usually the one offering to help people. As I reflected on his kind offer, I realized that I would not have asked him for help. In a situation where he directly offered, I am going to ask him to help me.

The tables were turned and I now see what may be a missing element in nurturing our networking and appreciating our network.

In our networks each of us has those people who are a consistent go-to person. They are the people who get things done, know the answers and are willing to help however they can. They are reliable, helpful, informed, connected and supportive. There is so much that wouldn't get done or happen without these giving types of people.

I am now wondering if we look after our helpers as well as we could.

  • What do you give back to your helpers?

  • How do you do that without their having to ask?

  • What's holding you back?

As I write this I realize that I assume that my go-to people have all they need and are far better connected than I am. I am assuming there's nothing I could do that someone else in their network couldn't. My assumption will remain only an assumption until I take a personal action to ask someone important to my network how I can help them. I might be very surprised by the response I get.


What if we are all making the assumption that our go-tos are being looked after and the reality is no one is looking after them?


Our go-tos likely find intrinsic value and reward for all they do. Consider the possibility that they are feeling tired and drained and would like someone to help them? Even if it's only to receive an offer and to know that someone is thinking of them. This will require your energy and interest but know that by giving of your time and effort you too will receive in your relationship.

Please reach out to that person, or those persons, that come to mind as you read this post. Connect with them to let them know how much you appreciate them. Ask them the simple and open question "What can I do to help you?". We may be surprised by the response we get.

Feel free to share this post with others so we can all take that moment to connect and support those in our network who we value and appreciate. I would love to hear the interesting connections that happen as a result of this. Share by a comment or private message me.

Now I find myself asking a favour of you, so if there’s anything I can do for anyone, please let me know..... how I can help you?


About Lisa W. HaydonLisa W. Haydon is the President and Founder of Pivotal Coaching Inc. She left her comfortable corporate career several years ago to follow her passion of helping people realize their potential and companies to realize high performance. Lisa is a growth focused entrepreneur, leadership development consultant and certified executive coach. To her clients, she brings business experience with prestigious corporations and continuous education. Lisa’s work in business operations and B to B sales expertise allowed her to create a differentiated coaching model and client experience. Lisa and Pivotal Coaching are known for 1:1 and cohort Programs in leadership development and sales effectiveness.


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