Updated: Nov 17, 2019
What If Your Attitude Is Holding You Back?
What’s your reaction to this statement: “You have the capacity to be even better”?
Some will say, “Well of course a coach will say that.”
Others will feel that it’s just too much of continuous improvement. They are successful and exactly where they want to be.
Then there will be those that ask, “What will make that possible?”
As a coach I see the potential in people; yet that potential is only realized when people see it themselves and have the attitude to realize it.
What’s top of mind?
If business and the business world were working well, we wouldn’t have to think about constant change and improvement. Yet we do. It’s something that’s on my mind and in my work every day. I have a growing business as professionals and companies seek varied methods to realize change and improve results.
The need to innovate is getting lots of attention.
What about the persistent gaps for women in leadership? Diversity? Lack of financial performance? ….
All of these trends suggest that there’s more for leaders and professionals to do. All of these opportunities for change require people to make it happen. The business case for change resides not only in our culture and businesses but also in ourselves.
Raising the bar
When did you last try something new? Really new? Maybe you tried a skill, such as a language or an instrument. There’s a confidence that comes with experience. There’s a comfort that comes with confidence. Our best self is realized when we put ourselves in a state of change to accomplish things that people saw us capable of doing or even what no one saw us capable of doing.
You see me post articles and speak on mindset. I want more people to think about what they can do with effort, taking on challenges, accepting feedback and, potentially, failure. Experience and success have a finite leverage point. Pushing past this cap involves mindset.
How do we raise the bar and raise our capabilities with it?
I believe that the more experienced we get, the less feedback we get, and we develop attitudes about certain things.
My recent departure from the corporate world has given me more clarity on my professional self and my career. While I thought I was a strong performer who did all the right things, I now see how my own mindset got in my way. I didn’t always show up for my team as my best. I was afraid of failure and made decisions that ensured that I protected my job. I could be complacent when change was hard or when things felt complex and like too much effort.
With new perspective I now see my opportunity is to enable companies and leaders to see things in a different light. To see themselves in a different light. To see a future with change, discomfort and potentially some failure. What don’t you see about yourself or what don’t you know about yourself? What do others know about you but you don’t?
What if you’ve got a blind spot? Those around us are holding out on us, as the reality is, most of us do have blind spots. The Johari Window Model reflects the potential to expand your open area.
Leading by example
Launching my business was a big change, yet I have continued to lean on old habits for comfort and confidence. I recently hired a coach to work with me to amp up my presentation skills. She’s turned out to be more than I bargained for.
She has exceptional capability to give very direct feedback and make you feel good about what she’s told you (I’d be very pleased to introduce you to Elissa Bernstein). She’s shown me a whole new “open area” for my communication and physical presentation like no one has ever done. My eyes are wide open and I know what to work on.
Am I a top student? Not at all! We are working on changing years of habits and styles that are engrained in my DNA. When it comes to presentation day, my stress amps up and I fall back into my old habits. With each presentation my old habits are reduced and replaced with the new ones I’ve been practicing. I am in a mindset to realize a new level of skill.
What do you have in mind?
As a client or an attendee in one of my workshops, know that I am working through my own change and challenging myself on a number of fronts. I am practicing what I coach. I share from a place of experience.
The driver behind teams, processes, and products is people. Same thinking and decision making doesn’t create change. Change is hard, change is risky, and change can be lonely. We have so many reasons to make change within ourselves.
Two things for you to think about when you’ve finished reading this article:
• What about your attitude is holding you back?
• What blind spot can you open for yourself? For others?
If your world is surrounded by unmet goals and demands, perhaps it’s time to take a look at yourself and your mindset.
Let me know if you need a fresh perspective on things .
What if you could be even better ?
Take a look at Is Your Mindset or Do You Have Mindset? for more on using your mindset.
About Lisa W. HaydonLisa W. Haydon is the President and Founder of Pivotal Coaching Inc. She left her comfortable corporate career several years ago to follow her passion of helping people realize their potential and companies to realize high performance. Lisa is a growth focused entrepreneur, leadership development consultant and certified executive coach. To her clients, she brings business experience with prestigious corporations and continuous education. Lisa’s work in business operations and B to B sales expertise allowed her to create a differentiated coaching model and client experience. Lisa and Pivotal Coaching are known for 1:1 and cohort Programs in leadership development and sales effectiveness.